Help My Mom Rebuild Her Life After Six Years of Medical neglect and Financial Hardship
My mom has spent the last six years fighting to get her life back. I’m starting this fundraiser because, after everything she’s endured, she deserves an opportunity to finally breathe.
Before all of this happened, my mom was an incredibly active, hardworking woman. She worked in healthcare and loved spending her free time hiking, biking, camping, and participating in obstacle course races like Tough Mudder. Some of my favorite childhood memories are of being outdoors with her, exploring California Oregon and Idaho. When I was young we would take an air stress down the Merced river until we graduated to paddling kayaks and canoes, and enjoying the life she worked hard to build.
Six years ago, during a patient transfer at work, she suffered a serious cervical spine injury. Herniated disc damage resulted in severe compression of her spinal cord. Despite months of seeking treatment, workers’ compensation disputed her injury and refused to authorize the MRI that would reveal its severity, repeatedly sending her to physical therapy and telling her to try massage and even psychiatry. After eight months of fighting, and very nearly taking her own life, she ultimately paid out of pocket for her own imaging and surgery and began a lawsuit against Idaho Workman’s compensation.
The injury left her with lasting nerve damage, significant muscle loss, and physical limitations that prevented her from returning to her profession, or to the extracurriculars she loved, and that defined her. Activities that had once been central to her life became impossible. She cannot ever work again, nor can she do the things outside of work that once brought her joy. Her injury affected her financially but also affected her family relationships and friendships, leaving her lost and unsure of who she is without all of what she once was. All because workman’s comp refused to approve her MRI.
After years of fighting, she eventually secured a workers’ compensation settlement. It is imperative to understand that had workman’s comp approved the MRI the first time it was ordered, she would not have spent 8 months suffering, her muscle mass wouldn’t have diminished, and she could have gone back to work and continued to live her life. Instead workman’s compensation chose to fight every step of the way, hiring private investigators to follow her to try to catch her in a lie.
But her hardship wasn’t over.
In 2022, she suffered a second herniated disc in her lower back and underwent another surgery, as a direct result of the first injury causing the loss in muscle mass that was keeping her degenerative disc disease from progressing. Initially, her recovery went well. Two weeks later, concerned about soreness and a possible problematic stitch, she visited urgent care.
Following that encounter, she developed an extraordinarily rare and life-threatening spinal HIB infection. She required emergency surgeries, six weeks of wound-vac treatment, and twelve weeks of intravenous antibiotics, and months of oral antibiotics.
A subsequent internal investigation by St. Luke’s found that the provider had failed to follow appropriate infection-control precautions.
During this period, she was relying on Medicaid because her injuries had left her unable to work and she was still in the middle of her lawsuit and disability appeals. When her long-awaited workers’ compensation settlement finally arrived, the state recovered the entire amount for medical expenses associated with her care.
After six years of fighting, she was left with nothing from the settlement.
Today, my mom remains unable to return to her former profession. She has also been diagnosed with lupus, and lost both of her parents in the last 4 years, in an unrelated cruel joke from the universe. She has repeatedly applied for disability benefits and been denied. She is not eligible for SNAP assistance due to her age, inability to work, and lack of any dependents under 6 years old. She struggles to maintain her daily necessities. She lives with family to avoid absolute destitution and homelessness, and all of us help her when we can but times aren’t good for anyone. She is caught in an incredibly difficult position: physically unable to return to the life and career she once had, but without the financial support needed to rebuild.
I’m asking for help because I want my mom to have some stability, dignity, and breathing room after years of hardship.
Donations will help with:
* Basic living expenses and financial stability.
* Medical expenses and ongoing healthcare needs.
* Transportation and other necessities.
* Legal consultations and assistance understanding her options, if funds permit.
More than anything, I want her to have the opportunity to focus on her health instead of constantly worrying about how she’s going to make ends meet.
My mom spent years working, caring for others, and being the strong person our family could depend on. Now, I want her to know that she doesn’t have to navigate everything alone.
If you are unable to donate, sharing her story would mean just as much.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, for caring, and for helping us give my mom a chance to move forward.
With gratitude,
Her daughter
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