Hi, Everyone 

I am Laris P Autry, 43 yo single mother to 14 kid who is awesome. 
My story. So I have been in a long term relationship for the past almost 8 years. With Timmy J Ramey. I helped him move 3 times i did all the packing and unpacking an organized everything. I helped him build his business Timmy J Softball / USSSA formally with ISA and one i can't remember. I busted my button lifting heavy things, packing everything up and unpacking at event and then taking back home amd unpacling again sometimes 4 days straight and causing me to miss important events, all while having nerve Damage that would make me hurt so bad I would rest /sleep for 1 to 2 days after. I organizing everything. Handling all roasters and check-In and collecting money. Not to mention running around town to get any and all supplies needed including shirts, balls and concessions stuff. Mind you more than half the time i didnt get paid. He would down play all I do and say I was just siting there but I handled 99% of the packing of cars, most or yall know this cause you would offer to help and i always said No because he said he didnt want his customers to do that. But he didnt help amd would watch me do it all by myself and even ask me to start packing. One of the umpires always offered to help thanks Baby D. But Timmy coukdnt help cause had to network. Then complainted and get mad when the lifting hurt me causing a flare up. I always unloading items when home too. I would clean and organize his garage so would be ready to go and the way he thanked me is by throwing stuff anywhere messing up my hours and hours of work after each event. Way to show appreciation for all the work someone does to help them succeed at a business. He would say he has to post results so he couldnt help but alway offered when I was finishing up. I handled 99% of getting stuff for events. I even ran an event with one of his other umpires. I handed ALL the household stuff on top of that in the almost 8 years together Timmy hasn't even packed his own bag but 2 times in 8 yeats and hasn't handled house hold stuff since the day I moved in. I even started caring for his dog so he could sleep in. Out of love, support and loyalty to someone I thought we were building a life together. At the beginning of this year I noticed changes in him that were concerning and HUGE red flags. He started pulling away, not talking to me about what was going on or anything that was bothering him. Which wasnt like him. When he started pulling away I tried talking to him many times about wanting to spend time together because i know that wasnt helping us stay connected and be the strong couple we started out being. Then I started catching him start lying, about small stupid stuff. I confronted him of course like a true narcissist it was flipped around to something i did wrong. You know dont look at me look at you. Then he started saying this person said you did this or you did that yet again narcissist triangulation. Trying to make me the one who is in wrong and these people agree but it's not true yet again. He will apologize and say he would work on it and then yet again another narcissist behavior, bread crumbing do just enough to keep you around and then back to his old ways. Saying he has to do this cause he needs money and its just stress he dont want anyone else. But i caught sending messages to girls. Loving inappropriate girls profile pics while in a relationship with me. Not being shy i confronted him he said it was due to stress and financial hardship. I told him then that if he didnt want this relationship or is interested in someone else to let me know so I can move on, and not waste my time. because⁹ì
Well my gut insintinct were right on and I should have left  he  fact was cheating and lying to us both. (Maybe more than one girl). This whole time he never once ended with me and he never one said we were over and never once asked me to move. Instead he started saying he was stressed and can't turn off his brain and he is closed to pulling out a gun and shooting someone. So he statyed  stayed in spare room. And acting even more strange saying he maybe dont know how to love. All the while talking to and dating another girl behind my back since Sept.
So now I have to move unexpectedly at the holidays and unfortunately I do not have the funds to do so because I wasnt expecting this. Not to mention the holidays arounf the corner. Especially after my car broke down just this Friday after running it ragged doing all the stuff for softball and doing Uber and doordash to help bring money in to help him pay bills all while he was taking out another woman but saying he needs help with the bills even though I buy all food, all cleaning and house products. I clean and look after his dog, I pickedup all his bluechew wrappers, his food and trash laying everywhere oh and his.testosteone bottles and cant forget picking up all his clothes laying  everywhere. And then washing his streaked underwear. So he can go be with another woman. 
I will use the money to buy supplies to pack up my craftroom and all my stuff from my house that we moved in over 4 years ago because we were supposed to be married. And anything left over use for bed for me and couch (i gave / sold all my futher proof of his lies) or a deposit. Rent and or Airbnb oh and a moving truck or PODs until school year ends and can move again Or find l find a place if it works may stay in NC. Thank so very much. Anything helps. 

The support is to help me amd mybchild leave this abuse behind and let me and my child heal from this. It will mean everything to us and i would be happy to work for as well. 

Laris P. Autry