November Update

Nov 25, 2024

We were encouraged to make a donation post before the holidays (whoops a bit late) and figured we would tie the donation post to an update on the last couple of months.

We went to the conference in September and boy, were there a ton of intended parents like ourselves! The conference was a comprehensive informational session involving the entire process of surrogacy from the concept of the idea of having kids, to the birth and everything in between. EVERYTHING in between… all the science. Which is great! The Conference itself was informative and helped fill in some small gaps in our education regarding parentage, insurance, and opened our minds to surrogates that are slightly beyond the New York border. We definitely met some great vendors that opened up our options for providers and what providers we didn’t know we needed. Of course, we did get some fun swag.

The exciting part of the conference was meeting with another mixed race couple who had gone through the journey with two of their own and the different challenges they faced along the way. It was comforting to hear that ultimately, things work out, however that may look for us I also believe that things will work out. We talked about raising two kids, one of them a girl, cultural traditions, language, upbringings, maternal influences, anything we could remember to ask in such a short time frame. We were so grateful for their time and their willingness to provide some of that information.

A big part of going to the conference was fulfilling a requirement for GPAP II (Gay Parenting Assistance Program II) which may help us match with providers who would offer pro-bono services, ranging from Fertility and Surrogacy agencies, to Insurance providers and a Legal Team. An added bonus was that we were able to get more clarify on the personal letter, which is meant to supplement the information on the application.
We are still financially roughly 35,000 short, but we are optimistic that we are on track to a potential June Start to our Surrogacy journey. By then we’ll officially start with our surrogacy agency and start the matching process. Once we are matched with a surrogate, and finished through legal, the exciting part begins.

You, our community have been an amazing source of support while we continue to grind through our financials and careers and set up a wonderful home for our future child. We submitted the application and now we eagerly await the response. This could be as late as april before we hear back, so we cross our fingers. In the meantime, we are continuing to ask for some additional support and donations to our family so that we could start just that little bit earlier. We’ve been waiting since 2018, and each mile stone has so many opportunities for setbacks, the more we can offset that time the better. As all our friends know, we aint getting any younger! We just hope to be able to keep up when our kiddo gets here.

Forever grateful - 爸爸(Baba) Jay and Daddy Erik

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