Vincent Lee is my husband of 8 years, a deacon in the church, and the loving father of nine children. Our kids range in age from adulthood to kindergarten. Jr is 32 and married. They live in New Jersey. The twins are 30 and work in healthcare. Isaac is 24. He graduated from college 3 years ago and is still finding his way. He works with his dad as a machinist. Simon is married, works in law enforcement and just gave us our first grandbaby. Jayden is 19 and in college. Hayden is a Senior in high school and ready for college. He wants to major in Marine and Oceanic biological. London is 15, a raising football star, and a Jr Deacon, following in his fathers footsteps. Then there’s Victoria. She had a hard start in life, born at only 24 weeks. She was only 1lb 9oz and 12” long. She was our Christmas gift 2019, coming home from a 87 day NICU battle. She went through years of therapy. I wasnt able to work during those years. I devoted every ounce of energy to caring for her. I went back to work in early 2023. it felt like life was returning to normal or as normal as possible. 
 

Shortly after our 5th anniversary, Vincent started experiencing some troubling symptoms and went to the doctor. They were concerned and sent him for testing. Some time later, we recieved the diagnosis- stage 2 prostatic adenocarcino. It felt like our whole world was shattering. If we didn’t have our church community to lean on, there is no telling how we would’ve managed. 

Doctors started hormone blocking therapy immediately to starve the tumor and  scheduled a procedure called brachytherapy where 92 radioactive seeds were inserted into his prostate. A few weeks later, he started radiation. Treatments went well (minus some sickness, exhaustion, and a plethora of side effects) and it all seemed to be behind us but 10 months later, his symptoms returned. Doctors sent Vincent for a CAT scan (which insurance wouldn’t pay for and cost $9000+). They called us into the office the next day for the results. The cancer had spread. The diagnosis- stage 4 prostatic adenocarcinoma with advanced metastates to the lymphatic system.

That was 6 months ago. Since then, he completed more 48 additional radiation sessions and will be continuing hormone blocking therapy for the next 18 months. Throughout all of this my devoted husband has only taken 16 days off work, including 8 days post surgery (Brachytherapy) and radiation five days a week!

He has good insurance but it doesn’t cover everything and household bills are piling up. We now owe more than $15,000 in hospital bills and another $8,000 in credit card bills. His hormone blocking medication costs $24,000 a month but insurance only pays $20,000. Holidays in general have been almost non-existant since his diagnosis which is hard to explain to a 6 year old. The older kids are a bit more understanding and supportive but it’s still hard for them to hide the disappointment in their faces when we . It will be harder to explain things when we lose our home and everything we own, because at this rate that’s where we are headed. We are completely tapped out and nowhere else to turn. 

We need your help! This kind, caring, selfless, loving husband and father needs your help. Our family needs your help! Please!