Years ago, I made the decision to have a tubal ligation—a procedure commonly referred to as "having your tubes tied." At the time, it felt like the right choice based on my circumstances, I was handed. Wasn’t anyway. I wanted to bring another baby in this world until I knew I could make it on my own and out of that marriage I was in. Like many people, I believed it would be a permanent step in my reproductive journey, and I made peace with it.

But life changes. People grow, relationships evolve, and new chapters open up that we never imagined.

Today, I find myself in a place where the desire to have another child is real, deep, and incredibly meaningful. Whether it’s due to a new relationship, a renewed sense of purpose, or simply the passage of time changing my heart, I now know I want to try again—not to rewrite the past, but to embrace a different future.

Because of my tubal ligation, natural conception is no longer possible. IVF is the only real option left to have a biological child.

IVF offers a second chance—an opportunity I never thought I’d need, but one I’m incredibly grateful exists. It allows eggs to be retrieved directly from the ovaries by and fertilized outside the body, bypassing the fallopian tubes completely. In short: even though my tubes are no longer functional, my body still has the ability to carry a pregnancy, and IVF makes that miracle possible.

Wanting a child after a tubal ligation can be a difficult and emotional journey. There’s often guilt, doubt, or judgment—both internal and external. But this desire comes from a place of love, hope, and a longing to grow a family that reflects where I am now, not just where I was then.

I am choosing IVF because I still believe in the dream of parenthood. I’m choosing it because this path, while complicated, still leads to something beautiful. And I’m asking for support, understanding, and kindness as I pursue this next chapter—with full heart and open hands. Please help our family grow ! 🤍